I shall thank everyone here who took the time and trouble to read this (stupid?) ‘heat of the moment’ piece of my mind. And must I say that everyone looks really cool today. Maybe I should try on that hairstlye sometimes though I doubt it’ll suit me as much as it does you. 😀
This is not going to be me rambling about another one of my stupid problems . I’ve realised that they’re really ‘tucchu’ (that’s what they say for insignificant things that really noone gives a damn about, in India)🙄. Instead let’s talk about……… Ummmm……. People? In general? People we know and those we don’t know, people we see on a bus stand that we might or might not remember, celebrities on reality shows and interviews. So……. People.
Everyday of our lives we come across a myriad of people, some of them never to meet again (and being a med student only helps). Our brain obviously can’t keep track of every face and every hairstlye we come across (let’s leave that to the hyperthymestics, shall we?) but there are certain people who definitely catch our attention (like the nose ring you’re wearing which compliments your Bob I or is it the other a way around? And my goodness, that smile is precious). Okay, so our first instinct whenever we come across anybody is to judge them. Maybe not criticise them or maybe we do, just form our own opinions about them. Based on the clothes they wear, their choice of sandals, their handbags, and accessories, and…….. you get the gist. Its a way to amuse ourselves, hell I’m the kind who’s just sit in a park or something and people watch (it’s beyond fun, trust me). And everybody does it , come on , we’re only human right!!!!! And what’s not to say that we are not judged by people too? Everybody judges everybody….. Period.
When it comes to our near and dear ones, the ones we actually know, it gets a little different. We still tend to judge them, but this time there would be preformed rules and concepts about them, a certain position and role they would have in the movie that is our life which we think we direct and view. So when they just so much as dare take even a 30° turn from that position, ( or add their own ad-libs….), the only thing that we can do in our defence is judge. Judge them for having chosen to be a different themselves ( or even their true selves), though our narcissistic brains overexaggerate even a tiny bit, blow things way out of proportions because our brains don’t have the basic function of adapting to change. We blame them for not conforming to the standards we set for them, not playing by the rules. And then follows the neverending sequence of disappointment, looking down upon them and giving up on them ( not that they deserve any of this shit for you being an asshole). And inturn by doing all this we let them down, change their perspective about us and INA way force them to judge us too? All in all, it’s a two-way thing- we judge and are being judged!
I have been rambling on for quite some time now, haven’t I?😌. But you have really been patient with all this and thank you for that. All I want to say is, maybe we should give people a chance. Not that we can stop judging, that’s asking for a lot and it’s never going to happen anyway. So all that’s left to do is, give people a chance to show that the change is worth it, but before that give yourself a chance for accepting!
You guys are beautiful regardless!!!!